Thursday, June 10, 2010

Fake Sex Real Consequences

In her book ‘Fake Sex Real Consequences,’ Aliceson Henderson provides a spiritual self help guide for young teen girls and young women on developing, through God’s wisdom and love, a sense of integrity, self respect, and self love. The purpose is to make positive life choices when it comes to relationships.

Henderson’s book provides lessons learned from experiences from her own life as a teen and as a young woman. She shares deeply personal experiences to help others understand how external influences impacted her self esteem and thinking which ultimately influenced her own choices. She faced overwhelming odds as a young woman, sacrificing everything for her children. She details how she believed that sex was supposed to be the way to a young man’s heart, believing what they said which led to betrayal, pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, and thoughts of suicide.

A predominant message in the book is the need for women to love themselves before they give themselves emotionally and physically to another. She discusses fake sex and the fake orgasm. She explains that fake sex is the addiction to needing to feel loved. For a woman, the physical becomes the emotional which leads to bad choices and devastating consequences. She talks about soul ties. A soul tie is a connection to our heart and to God. When our soul becomes tied to someone instead of tied to God’s love, we lose our connection to God, and then lose ourselves.

Henderson discusses that she had kids but never enjoyed the process of having kids. Much of the reasoning behind the lack of enjoyment of sex is because it was “unsure sex.” She says that, “no sex is better than unsure sex.” Women need to set standards and personal values about sex despite the pressure society puts on them to have sex. She explains that unsure sex leads to low self esteem and feeling worthless which makes it is easy for a man to capture a woman’s mind and manipulate her. An important message of the book: “never let anyone define who you are.”

A nice part about the book is that the Pastor takes her own life experiences as well as experiences of others and shares them with readers. As with many religious books, social issues are discussed. Homosexuality is briefly touched upon. She appears to view homosexuality as a sin so it will be up to the reader to agree or disagree. ‘Fake Sex Real Consequences,’ is well worth reading and highly recommended as it provides a heartfelt understanding of such problematic societal issues as domestic violence, spread of sexual transmitted diseases among women, and teen pregnancies, as well helpful spiritual teachings.

Tracy Roberts, Write Field Services

Wednesday, June 02, 2010


In his novel, ‘Francesca,’ author Hugh Tetlow tells a mystery romance story about a woman by the name of Francesca living in Oxfordshire, England who suddenly finds her world turned upside down. Francesca struggles to come to terms with a loveless marriage, deal with the seedy underworld of diamond smuggling, and discover new feelings about a new man in her life that causes her to question her previous notions on love, life, happiness, and her future.

Francesca Westmoreland is a young woman in her thirties living in a loveless marriage with her husband Hector for 12 years. It is a marriage of convenience that leaves her feeling empty and unfulfilled. One day, her brother Ned is in a plane crash which leaves him badly injured and in a coma. On her way home from visiting her brother in the hospital, Francesca is in a car accident. She is rescued by Philip Lester who takes her to recuperate at his home where he and his daughter Emma live. Francesca finds herself drawn to their warmth and loving care which causes her to explore feelings she has suppressed for many years. It is not long before she learns that the plane crash may have been the result of sabotage and her brother was carrying contraband diamonds on the plane. When her brother awakens from the coma, he has no memory and is unable to help resolve the diamond mystery. The events that unfold involve Francesca becoming embroiled in a diamond smuggling plot that has the potential to harm not only her, but also her brother.

Told in the first person, readers will enjoy following Francesca’s vivid character development as she reflects on her past relationships that includes her relationship with her brother as a youth and her loveless marriage with an overbearing and coldhearted husband. Francesca’s emotional journey is at the heart of the story and involves struggling to find her sense of self and come to a new understanding of love. She develops from a fragile character to a character that is emotionally stronger and more self-assured. The story is a very sentimental character study entwined in mystery and danger.

‘Francesca’ is an entertaining tale of romance and mystery. It is not just a story of finding true love, but a story of a woman finding herself in the midst of danger and intrigue. I highly recommend ‘Francesca’ to readers who enjoy well written and researched romantic stories with plots that involve suspense and danger.

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